No one enters into a relationship expecting it to end in disaster. But sometimes, things don’t go as planned. So, if you are starting to feel like your relationship is not right, here are 18 sure signs that you need to watch out for.
Don’t stay in a wrong relationship just because you’re afraid of being alone! Remember, there is plenty of fish in the sea, and when you find the right one for you, life will be much better. So, if any of these signs apply to you, it’s best to speak to your partner or start over.
Signs You’re in a Wrong Relationship:
1. You’re always arguing:
Fighting is normal in any relationship, but if you find yourself constantly arguing with your partner, that may be a sign that things are not right. If you and your partner can’t seem to have a peaceful conversation without it turning into an argument, then there’s definitely some underlying issues that need to be addressed.
2. You’re not happy:
Not being happy in a relationship that you spend time and effort in building is a clear sign that something is wrong. One of the best things about being in a love relationship is that it can actually make you happier and more optimistic. When you’re with the right person, they will add to your life and make it better.
3. Your partner is constantly putting you down
If your partner is always putting you down, making fun of you, or talking about your flaws all the time, it’s a sign that they don’t respect you. And it would help if you try discussing it with them first before seeking professional help or completely breaking up with them to find someone who loves and respects you for who you are
4. You feel lonely even when they’er around you
When you are in a relationship with someone you don’t connect with, you will often notice this weird feeling of loneliness even when they are around you. Sometimes you will be wondering what exactly is wrong.
You could see that you’re not connected to this person on the level you should be, and this feeling can be frustrating on a soul level that is difficult to describe. I have been there, and I must tell you, this experience can be emotionally draining. If you find yourself in this situation, I highly recommend talking to a therapist or, better quit the relationship.
5. You’re always walking on eggshells.
According to Marriage.com, Walking on eggshells means living in constant fear of being quarried on every action or word you say, including what you wear and your opinion on little things. You are always careful with everything you do and say to avoid any conflict with them.
Honestly, this kind of experience in a relationship is wrong for you because you might lose yourself without even knowing. I will advise you to move on with your life.
6. You don’t trust them.
Trust is a vital key in any love relationship. So if you don’t trust your partner, can’t comfortably relax around them, or have to keep an eye on them constantly for your safety, then it’s time to end things because the relationship is unhealthy for you.
7. You don’t feel loved.
One of the most important parts of any relationship is feeling loved and supported by your partner. If you don’t feel like your partner loves and values you, it’s going to be really tough to stay in the relationship long-term.
In my first marriage, I constantly felt like I wasn’t good enough for my ex. I’d do things to try and make him happy or show him how much I loved him, but it never felt like enough. No matter what I did, it seemed like he always found something to criticize me for.
When you’re with the right person, you feel loved and supported unconditionally. They make you feel like you can do anything and be anything because they believe in you. You don’t have to constantly prove your worth to them because they already know it. And they’ll always be there to lift you up when you need it.
8. They’re always cheating on you.
Of course, no one deserves to be cheated on. But if your partner has a history of cheating or they’re currently cheatng on you, that’s a pretty big sign that you’re in a wrong relationship.
It’s not just about the cheating, either. It’s also about how your partner reacts when they get caught. If they make excuses, try to gaslight you, or blame you for their cheating, that’s a huge red flag. My second husband cheated on me repeatedly, and each time he did, he tried to convince me that it was my fault. He would say things like, “If you weren’t so paranoid/jealous/controlling, I wouldn’t have to cheat on you.”
Of course, it’s always your partner’s responsibility to be faithful, regardless of your actions or words. If they can’t do that, then they’re not the right person for you.
9. They’re always lying to you.
When your partner starts lying to you about unnecessary things, it’s a sign that they don’t respect you and can’t confide in you anymore. Yea, because transparency is key to any happy relationship.
So if you find yourself in this kind of situation, I will advise you first to check why your spouse suddenly stopped trusting you with their secrets. If you think the fault is not from you, then talk to them about it. People often lie for different reasons, including when they start cheating on their partners.
10. You don’t feel like yourself around them
Not being yourself in a relationship is a clear sign that you are not with the right partner because if the union is conducive enough, I don’t see the reason you won’t be free to express yourself in the presence of your partner.
I believe that what shows you are in a happy relationship is your ability to feel free with your spouse and never hide your lifestyle from them. And if they genuinely love you, they will accept you for whom you are.
That I advised you to be yourself doesn’t mean you should force your partner into accepting your flawed characters because no one would love to tolerate what they don’t like. So be open to any good advice from your spouse concerning your behaviour they don’t like and be willing to adjust.
11. You don’t have anything in common
Having things in common, like shared interests, goals, dreams, and hobbies, is ideal in any relationship. But when you notice your partner wants the opposite of what you desire most in life, then it’s a red light. In a case like this, I recommend you try winning them over to start liking what interests you, and you can do the same for them if you really love your spouse. However, if you think it’s not what you can’t handle, I’ll advise you to quit the relationship and find someone who shares the same interest as you.
12. They’re always busy
I know we live in a time where every minute of our day is occupied with one task or the other, but that shouldn’t be why your partner won’t squeeze out time to check on you. If there’s no call or text from your partner for a whole day, It’s obvious that you are not in their thoughts.
So if your partner is always too busy for you, never make time for you or always cancel plans last minute, it’s clear they don’t prioritize you. And it would be best to end things to give a chance to the person that will appreciate your worth.
13. They’re always flirting with other people.
It’s normal if your partner flirts with other people, but too much of it would be lousy, especially if they do it in your presence without caring about your feelings.
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So if you constantly argue with your partner on this topic of flirting and things don’t seem to change for good afterward, then you should get out of the relationship for the sake of your mental health.
14. You don’t feel safe around them.
Of course, we all desire to be loved and cared for. But in a situation where your partner specializes in hurting and causing you emotional stress is wrong and highly not accepted because you deserve to be happy.
So, if they always make you feel scared or uncomfortable around them, or you observe that you are no longer safe near them, it’s a sign that the relationship is not suitable for you, and it’s best to get out of this wrong relationship ASAP.
15. They’re always talking about themselves.
A good relationship is where you care about your partner’s welfare and not yours alone. If your partner is always talking about themselves and never seem interested in things about you, it’s clear that they’re selfish and don’t give a damn about you or your people (family). It’s time to find someone who will appreciate, care, and actually listen to you.
16. They don’t support your dreams.
I believe if you love someone, you will genuinely assist them in achieving their dreams and ambitions because you win when they are winning. However, if your partner does the opposite, never seems to be happy for your successes, or always tries to bring you down, my dear, I think it’s evident that the relationship is not right for you.
17. They scolds, yells, pushes, or shoves you.
It’s not always easy to tell when a relationship is unhealthy. Sometimes, the signs are subtle and don’t become noticeable until you’re already deeply invested in the relationship. But in a circumstance where your partner always yells at you, scolds you, pushes, or shoves you around, it’s a sign that they don’t value you. And this type of behavior is a red flag, and you don’t deserve that. Because when you truly love someone, you hardly abuse them in any way.
18. You find yourself wondering if you’re in the wrong relationship.
Do you know that feeling where you still feel alone even while in a relationship with the person you love? And it happens to the extent you find yourself wondering if you’re in the wrong relationship. Yea, it’s real, and it’s a sign that something is wrong. So, if you can’t seem to shake the feeling that you should be with someone else, it may be time to end things.
Conclusion
If you can relate to any of the above signs, it may be time to end your relationship. Remember that you deserve to be in a healthy, happy, and supportive relationship. If you feel like you have to change yourself for your partner, then it’s not the right relationship. If your partner is constantly putting you down, making you feel bad about yourself, or making you feel like you’re not good enough, then it’s time to move on. No one deserves to be in a relationship where they don’t feel valued and appreciated. So If you don’t know how to end the wrong relationship, please refer to this article on How to Quit a Toxic Relationship: The Perfect Guide, for a step by step guide.
Rememeber, if your current relationship isn’t meeting your needs, don’t be afraid to start over. You deserve to be happy!
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